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Quarter-Life Crisis: 10 Signs That You Are Experiencing This

It is one week before my 26th birthday. Everything in my existence seems to be on the wrong side. My work isn’t giving me excitement anymore. And going out with friends feels like impossible to do. Making a budget is totally draining. Everything is a mess, and I can’t fix it. This is my quarter-life crisis.

I started asking myself, do I really have that future of accomplishment that I thought I would have? Would I have that impact on the world that I am hoping to create? Is living now and surviving more years having a point anyway?

Quarter-life crisis, as described by The Guardian: young, insecure and depressed. I am young. I am insecure. I am depressed. And I am experiencing my quarter-life crisis. This phenomenon hits those who are in their early twenties to thirties, or those who enter the “real world” as they labeled it; or after they completed their education.

10 Signs That You Are Experiencing Quarter-Life Crisis

  1. You are reading this article right now because the title got your attention.
  2. Spotify has been your favorite app and you listened to playlists like Life Sucks, Forever Alone or Melancholia because this is what you feel inside; or to 100 Most Uplifting Songs Ever, Relax & Unwind or The Stress Buster, because you feel like you need to hear songs that can brighten up your mood and to help you survive your day.
  3. Day-dreaming about taking over your boss’s job role and imagining how stressful it will be doing his job.
  4. You get to question yourself if you’re doing enough to reach your goals. You are doubtful about your decisions because you do want no wrong at every step you make.
  5. Drained by making a budget because you spent more than you can earn. You have bills to pay for credit cards, phone bill, utilities, and you spent a lot on clothing and coffee. Thinking of how you will manage this drains your energy.
  6. Your current job can no longer deliver the excitement you need. You go to work at 8 AM and leave at 5 PM, and that’s it. No enjoyment, same routine every day.
  7. Going on a vacation to travel makes you relax but you know when you come back, everything will be the same. You feel depressed, you overthink and the crisis is there again. Then you decide to go to another travel trip because you always think traveling has answers.
  8. You’re in a long-term relationship, and you’re worried about marriage. The idea of marriage scares you and it bothers you if you’ll be good at it.
  9. You’re single for a long-term already and you’re scared that your dating card isn’t as good as before.
  10. Taking a shower, sitting on a toilet, waiting in line for a coffee, traveling in public transport, and waiting for an elevator. These usual repetitive moments in your life seem to be moments where you think of everything about your life, and where decisions are made.

You can also read this article on Thought Catalog.

55 Comments

  1. Laine Dogelio says

    8/10. You’re right about “You get to question yourself if you’re doing enough to reach your goals”.. I’ve been asking myself that question for a lot of times already. I just hope this crisis end already.

    • I’ve been asking this question for so long, and it makes me sad assessing myself. Yeah, I really hope too that this crisis end already.
      Hugs!

    • Jeanie, I tell you the first time you’re be in a relationship or the first time that you’ll be in love is so special. Harhar. I miss being in love. Chos.
      We’ll be alright. Hugs!

  2. I’m on my mid 20’s already and I still don’t know where my life is taking me. This is what I’m more anxious about. I believe I’m doing well in life except saving haha and this makes me worried about my future.
    Auradelle // Shoot, Eat, Write

  3. i can relate to everything you wrote. 20s is the hardest period in life but i believe diamond only shine the brightest after some tough cutting so hang on there. you got this 🙂 nowadays i just treat life crisis as a reality check. that means i need to take different route, do other stuff, don’t get stuck. i hope things look up for you soon xx

  4. Only 21 and I am stressed at hell. Mostly, I ask myself, “Have I accomplished what I need to be accomplished at this age?” Right now, I’m just going through the motions, essentially running away from my quarter-life crisis. I go to work, count down the days until my next trip, go on a trip, book the next one and repeat. Sooner or later, I have to focus more on what direction I’ll be going tho.
    xo, Richel V.

  5. This must be so uncomfortable for you. If only I could help you as an 18 year old person who haven’t experience any of these, I would. However, I found this helpful for some of us –with the same age. Because we could prepare for that life crisis. I’m sure you’ll overcome this and find new amusement in your life. Maybe it’s time for you to be more adventurous!
    Love, Fads
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  6. Norine says

    Great post! I can tell you I think a lot of people around that age often feel that way. I’m here to say it does get better! Hope things start looking up for you! 🙂

  7. ah, quarter life crisis. what i’m currently dealing with. although my symptoms vary from what you have listed, i’m young, depressed and insecure too. it doesn’t help that i also suffer from frequent depression and anxiety attacks so yup, quarter life crisis is happening here. even though my symptoms vary, i can totally relate to what you have written. for instance, feeling bored with the job and going through a routine like a walking zombie – no fun, just survival. i’m really scared of turning into this kind of person, y’know. i see people who wake up in the morning and go to work with a grumpy face because they don’t enjoy their job, they’re just doing it to survive. dang, that really got me anxious, lol. i’m not a genius but i’d like to think that quarter life crisis happens because nobody taught us how to enter the adulthood properly and we haven’t figured a lot of things out at 20s. it sucks but we gotta do it ourselves, yeah? good luck to you!

    • I just read your comment. I’m sorry for the late reply. I just realized what you said. Maybe we’re experiencing this because nobody helped us, and we’re doing it ourselves. Or maybe I was just ignoring them. Thank you, Elisa.

  8. I’m so sorry to hear you went through that! I was there too, and simply needed to take some distance and regroup myself. Hope things get better and you find your way. Thanks so much for sharing this article!

  9. I believe we all go through this phase at least once in our lives. It frightens me to think that I will also feel the things written here soon, aside from number 4 cos I’m feeling that now. I observe, that I feel sad and less worthy when I see other people younger than me who already achieved a lot. Sure, I’m genuinely happy for them, but I’m starting to question my capabilities deep down. I keep reminding myself that I have my own phase and time, and I’ll get to where I want soon if I work harder while keeping my values intact.
    Off topic: You’ve written this post for thought-catalog. How’s the submission process and guidelines? I want to try.

      • I think millennials like us tend to overthink in our young age. We want so much to happen in our lives that we think time isn’t enough. I like it when you say when you wanted to get where you want soon if you work harder while keeping your values intact. Agreed.
        Yup. Submit your article here. http://thoughtcatalog.com/submissions/
        You kinda have to wait two weeks. You’ll get a reply once your article is published.

  10. I just keep nodding throughout the list, except for no 9, I guess, because my current relationship relevantly new. Somehow, it’s nice to know a number of people also feel the same.

  11. I think I am still experiencing quarter life crisis even though I have past the quarter life.
    What are you specialising now?

  12. I totally get this. I think all of these things are frightening for any age. I totally relate to the "Travel isn’t the answer." A lot of my friends constantly want to run away and travel, but just because you change cities doesn’t mean your problems don’t follow you there.

    • Right. I tried it. Yeah, you’ll feel light at first but at the end of the day, even you’re not in your city, you would still think about your problems, especially the "going home" part.

  13. This is all too familiar to me. Except for the marriage part, I love being married!

  14. I’m sorry to hear you’re having a quarter-life crisis! I can definitely relate to some of this post though, adjusting to adult life can be hard sometimes.

  15. Elena says

    You will see when you turn 30 what kind of a crisis you will going through 🙂 I was a year ago. Just kidding, I think as we get old we learn to appreciate life more and we make better decisions because of our experience.

  16. Shane says

    I just turned 25 last week and quarter life crisis is so real! We’ve got the power to overcome this 🙂

  17. I feel like this and i’m in my 30’s! Very few people have it figured out. We are all in the same stressful boat my friend. Join us, take a life jacket!

  18. Nida says

    What a composition!! Hats off you are magician of words. I can totally relate myself with this situation

  19. YUPPP!!!!!

    I have so been there. Like multiple times between ages of 25 and 30. I must have had like 10 of these at least.

    Something amazing happened though after I hit 30, all of the sudden all that quarter-life angst, just melted away. It helps that I started making choices for me, not society.

    Thanks for sharing,

    Nadalie

  20. I totally agree with these! Your twenties can be a tumultuous time, but you can also start feeling stuck in the midst of them, not sure exactly what you want and not wanting to end up somewhere undesirable because you weren’t paying attention. I always have to tell myself to slow down when I’m feeling this. It’s a good opportunity to take stock of the things I appreciate about my life and consider what I would like to change. -Emmi, http://www.scoutandwiles.com

  21. Such an interesting article! I’ve never heard of this term but it totally makes sense. I could see myself in my early 20s relating to some of the mentioned points.

  22. sonali jain says

    We are all in the same stressful condition for a while and we all suffer. after then everything starts getting normal suddenly when we realize life is for our own self, not for anyone else. 🙂 ,

  23. Christienne says

    4, 7 and 10 are so damn relatable!!!

    Tienne — foregathers.life/blog

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